I’m Picking a Fight

I grew up in an amazing home.

My childhood was fiercely protected by my parents and my biggest problems growing up were things like having to wait until the weekend to go to the library to load up on more books to read, not being able to have my friends over every single day to go swimming during the summer, and sharing a car with my little brother.

  • Not everyone is so blessed.

Many girls are abused, raped, ignored, emotionally traumatized, and deemed ‘trash‘ by the people in their lives who are supposed to protect, love, nurture, and teach them how amazing they truly are. Many girls have no idea what it means to be loved and cherished for who they are because they are the only one of them that will ever be.

For the past few months I have been chewing on the idea of choosing a problem to solve; a massive, giant, unsolvable problem.

Everywhere I turn, it keeps coming up. In my neighborhood, the newspaper, around the table at a celebration dinner, with friends, and in my heart.


I don’t claim to have the answers or know the root of the problem. I just know my heart cries out for justice in regards to this ‘unsolvable problem‘.

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Feminism or freedom?

Why is it as soon as a woman speaks up for the rights of women she is labeled as a feminist? For years, I spoke up and  fought for women to be equal, not above. I grew tired of being dismissed and labeled, so I got quiet.

  • It may be a label, but it doesn’t stick unless I let it.

I have been waiting for men to step up and speak out, to lead a revolution.

When you keep seeing the problem, it is most likely you have the answer – even if you don’t know what it is yet.

I literally have no idea how to help or what to do, but it is a thread that I am going to consciously weave into the tapestry of my life. You have to start somewhere and apparently writing about it is my first step.

There isn’t a day that goes by when I don’t notice the problem.

It is time for me to step up, seek out answers, refuse to believe prostitution and human trafficking can never be stopped and that the problem is too big and too complex to solve.

I grew up with great parents. A mom who told me and let me be amazing. A dad who never told me I couldn’t do something because I am a girl and was delighted to show me how to build a deck or fix a car because I was interested. They both constantly told me I was smart, bright, capable of anything and were delighted by my tenacity and leadership. Yet even still I struggled with self esteem, playing small, letting abusive men sexually harass me in the workplace, not speaking up, and being defined by my body.

It is only the grace of God that I am where I am.


My story could be that of any woman on the street. It’s time to see her for who she is. She has a heart, story, and a purpose. I need to stop walking by and being afraid.

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It is said to be impossible to stop prostitution.

I love impossible.

Give me one impossible and I will raise you two possibles and a heart on fire for justice.

  • I have a voice, so I will say it again. Everyone matters and deserves to live their whole life.
  • I have a heart, so I will let it bleed. Nothing about prostitution is ok.
  • I have freedom, so I will give it away. How can I help?
  • I have words, so I will write. Who’s story needs to be told?
  • I have guts, so I will be bold. What obstacles need to be kicked down?

Where do I start? I don’t know. All I know is that I must start. Maybe you need to as well.

What if we all found one problem to solve, to give our lives to? What would change in the world?

It is time for us to stop using all of our resources, love, experience, heart, relationships, and power for ourselves.

Whenever we hoard, someone else hurts.

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  1. 1) Why is it such a horrible thing to be a feminist?
    2) Sex work and human trafficking are pretty different things, maybe you should do some research?

    • 1. I don’t necessarily think that it is anymore. 🙂

      2. I agree. Research is required but from the reading and listening I have done human trafficking and prostitution are tied together.

      Any recommendations of where I should start? 🙂

  2. Wow, you’ve chosen a very difficult and multi-layered international problem to tackle.

    First, start by reading first hand accounts from women (and males) who have been involved in prostitution or human trafficking. Also read viewpoints from those who are for prostitution and those who are against it. Familiarize yourself with our Canadian laws on prostitution and human trafficking so you can see how this illegal activity is handled in Canada.

    You’d have to figure out if you want to focus specifically on prostitution or human trafficking or a combination of both (because they are two different things). You’d also have to decide if you want to focus locally (Edmonton/Canada) or Internationally.

    Do you want to help from the front line (face-to-face ministry to prostitutes, volunteering with prostitutes,etc) or from “behind the scenes” (donating to organizations, helping with awareness campaigns, petitioning governments for changes to human trafficking/immigration laws, etc.)

    Or maybe you’d like to help “indirectly”, volunteering with teenage girls to help build self-esteem and skills so they do not end up in prostitution; partaking in human rights groups; helping to support fair-trade, direct trade, etc. businesses so that women can earn a fair wage and not have to turn to prostitution because of financial hardship.

    This is a very difficult area to make changes in. I do believe that legalized prostitution and human trafficking can end, but not any time soon. We know it can be done and a prime example would be from all the hard work ,sacrifices and lost lives that occurred as a result of the Abolitionist movement in the U.S. and the Civil Rights movement. We also know that with freedom comes a long list of struggles. So be patient when trying to save the world because their is only one Saviour and we can only do what He has called us to do (we’ll know what that is according to the passions on our hearts) and within the gifting and skills we have been blessed with.

    Good luck in your search and my apology for this very long essay!

    • Such great insight and questions. Thank you! 🙂 I have a feeling there is a combination of indirect and behind the scenes and finding where my skills and gifts can help the most.

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