Inside Job

This evening I found myself bone dead tired, but happily singing while doing something I absolutely hate.


I have no idea how one woman can use so many reusable containers in one day, and heck, I am that woman!

DL Kitchen

This is AFTER I unloaded and loaded the dishwasher. ACK!

Three very good reason to hate doing dishes.

  1. Thanklessness. No one ever thanks you for doing the dishes and they show up every single day, dirty as ever.
  2. Crustiness. Forgetting to rinse your containers right away can lead to spoons being adhered to to containers with a ferocity that puts superglue to shame.
  3. Singletasking. I have yet to figure out how to do anything else while washing dishes. I can’t even scratch my nose without making more work for myself in the long run.

While armpit deep in suds, hot water, and more crusty ziploc containers than is even reasonable, I had an epiphany.

I am happy. Very happy.

Happiness doesn’t just arrive. It takes discipline and doesn’t always look fabulous.

I worked my way up the corporate ladder in hot pursuit of happiness. At the top there was stress, tons of responsibility, and more expectation than I ever wanted to carry.

  • Corporate tumbleweed rolled by, but no happiness.

In an effort to find purpose, I whittled my muffin top down to a size zero and worked myself into the ground to try to look like a cover model.

  • Dissatisfaction and frustation stared back at me from the mirror.

Expectation of fulfillment was a burden I forcefully strapped to my husband’s back for 12 years.

  • Overwhelmed and stressed responses was all I got back in return.

Happiness is an inside job.

Feelings come and feelings go; what you do with them matters. Learning about what goes on inside of myself and what I needed to change to be happy is one of the most important things I have learned in my adult life.

How to start moving towards happiness.

  1. Recognize the feeling. What is that thing swirling inside of you? Anger? Frustration? Sadness? Aloofness?
  2. Get curious. Ask yourself questions like, ‘What is that about? Where did that come from? What is triggering this feeling?’
  3. Choose a reaction. What you do with the feeling is up to you. Scream, cry, journal, breathe, talk calmly, take time for yourself, sing, or laugh; it is 100% up to you.
  4. Accept responsibility. Your happiness is your responsibility, own it and cultivate it.

I waited 32 years for something to happen or change so I could be happy.

It turns out that thing is ME.

What goes on in the inside shows up on the outside.

What is your inside job these days?

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  1. I love the accept responsibility. It took me being 29 years old and deciding I didn’t want to turn 30 in a job I hated to finally do something about it. Over a year later I have a job I enjoy, am happier, less stressed, and have found that this makes me a better person all around.

  2. I actually had a covnersation with someone this morning about change. and Its the change that comes within that really makes a difference.

    Im happy you’re happy : )

    • Thank you! I am really happy to be happy too. 🙂 The inside work is the best work you can do because no matter where you go, there you are. I’ve moved from an ‘ACK!’ response to a ‘YAY!’ response to the ‘wherever you go…’ statement.

  3. I moved to a house with no dishwasher, so I BECAME the dishwasher. You can choose to hate it and be sad, or you can choose to be happy with your little dishes, be grateful for the fact that you HAVE dishes, and a kitchen to wash them in. It is a little way of restoring order in a chaotic world.

    • I agree. If you read the whole post, you would see that is the premise of the article. I have learned that being grateful and happy is exactly what living is all about. I am VERY grateful for my ‘little dishes’ and my home. 🙂

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