Being Afraid is Officially Boring

This may or may not come as a surprise…

  • I am bored.

And not in the ‘What should we watch on TV tonight?’ or ‘There is nothing to do, all my friends are busy, and my whole house is spotless….now what?’ kind of way.


Uh oh…not good!


My house can usually be found with a backlog of dirty dishes, laundry and other things that would make Martha Stewart cringe, I don’t know the last time I watched a TV show just for the heck of it, and any spare time in my life is spent counting sheep.

My business keeps my mind hopping and I work out like a mad woman every single morning, but my passion and heart are atrophying. The dreaming part of me that creates crazy feats to conquer and sees problems that require action and reformation is bored.

Bored out of my soul.

The hardest thing about drawing the line in the sand and deciding to not compete in Figure Competitions anymore probably isn’t what you think it is.

The morning I made my decision to quit competing, I found myself sitting in the driver’s seat of my car with tears streaming down my face. My husband stared at me, confused as to why making the decision to not diet like a mad woman for months on end, apply 4 coats of fake tan, and glue a small pieces of bedazzled fabric to my body would make me so sad.

It had nothing to do with the bikini, shoes, or my not-so-lean body.

I felt lost.

Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance, you must keep moving.

~ Albert Einstein

The most amazing part of my journey to the stage was staring one of my epic fears in the face and doing what I wanted to do with my whole heart, no matter how scary it was.

I learned the skill of doing it afraid.

Fear keeps us from doing things we want to do, grabbing the opportunities that come our way only once, and stepping fully into our calling and purpose.


I want to live fearlessly and passionately!

Living where it is safe and comfortable is easy, but it is also boring.

  • Its time to dream again.
  • Its time to find a mountain to climb.
  • Its time to make a huge impact in the world.

I am hatching an epic, year long plan that is going to be all about ‘doing it afraid‘. My epic-take-ove-the-world-and-challenge-others-to-do-the-same plan is kicking off soon, but first I need your input.

Your ideas, passions, and fears are needed.

  • Tell me what you’re most afraid of, what big world problem you would tackle if you could, or both in the comments below.

I am putting my biggest fears, what I want to do in the world, passions, and some other random things into the ‘DL Mind Blender’ and seeing what kind of concoction I come up with.

So far all I know is that we are going to face fear head on and attempt to change the world with many other brave and fabulous people.

  • Bring on the Year of Fear!

The Year of Fear will be launching soon, as in October 1 or November 1, keep your eyes peeled for ways to get involved, face your fears, and live passionately and on purpose.

Who needs to wait for January 1 to do something new?

Not this girl!

I am scared out of my mind and I love it.

You coming with? What do you want to do afraid?

If you enjoyed this post, make sure you subscribe to my RSS feed!


  1. Oh, Donloree, you are speaking my language here! I’m definitely in that same rut… feeling bored and unchallenged but not sure what mountain I want to climb. My biggest fear right now seems like a very silly one… fear of the birthday that’s just around the corner! Not the day itself, of course, but what it represents in my mind; the idea that I’m no longer young (not even middle aged, really!), that I’m not always going to be able to do the things I’ve always taken for granted. In one way perhaps it’s a good thing because it’s given me a burning desire to do something meaningful but at this point I have no idea what that something is! I can’t wait to see what you come up with and really hope that it’s something I can be a part of in some way.

    • Elaine, you are going to be able to be involved. I am dreaming up some things, but everyone will be able to modify it for their situation and make it their own. It is time to make some changes, so glad you’re coming along!

  2. I agree! Afraid is boring. I am facing my fears right now…quit my desk job, went back to school and started my own training company……scared sh**less and could not be happier:)

    • I love it! Go Heather! Sitting around and waiting for life to do what you want it to do and being sad that you aren’t getting the results you want is not a fun way to live. I love your passion, it is awesome!

  3. This post lit me up. I feel like you’re speaking my language. This post made me feel excited AND reflective. I’m left asking myself “what big world problem would I tackle if I could?” I’ve been talking for months (ok years) about my vision to lead sold-out retreats for women solopreneurs in other parts of the world and yet, I just launched another “local” retreat . . . because it *wasn’t* scary.

    Your “Year of Fear” has my name all over it.

    Love you girl!

  4. I was teary throughout this entire post!

    “Fear keeps us from doing things we want to do, grabbing the opportunities that come our way only once, and stepping fully into our calling and purpose.” I love that!

    I have been struggling over the past month, maybe it’s the post competition blues, but I feel like I’ve been afraid of my own shadow.. even though I just did the scariest thing I have ever done~ getting up on stage in a bedazzled bikini… what is wrong with this situation?! 🙂 Thank you for this encouraging post!


  5. I am currently scared out of my mind prepping for my first figure comp. after everything I’ve been through this past year I need to do this for me but that does not make it an easy process.

  6. This post is exactly what I needed right now! I’m prepping for my personal training exam and I am scared to a) fail and b) to fail at my business (mobile training) once I start it. I am ready to face my fear and am ready to join you on your next adventure!

  7. I’m in! I have a few things that I’ve been afraid of, lets change that:)

  8. You experienced the same thing I did when I finally broke 200lbs on the scale (the right way, that is). I had no goal! No mountain to climb, as it were.

    2013 is already going to bring some hella huge changes my way, why not make it my Year of Fear, too? I’m going to work on getting my work into a gallery. *GASP* I JUST SAID IT “OUT LOUD”. omg omg omg omg.

    *deeeeeep breath*

    Okay. Bring. It.


  1. […] you needed to read it and it just rang true to you? This happened to me this morning when I read this blog post. It made me […]

Speak Your Mind


Notify me of followup comments via e-mail. You can also subscribe without commenting.

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.