Know Your No

Nine months ago in the dead of winter while I was still armpit deep in Christmas holidays, I drafted a life and business plan. Every aspect of my life and business was put into black and white on paper.

  • 14 pots of coffee and 28 pages later, I was done.

Hold the applause.

Don’t give me too much credit. What else is an entrepreneurial woman supposed to do when its -35 and there are only 7 hours of daylight?

My business plan had more streams of business than an octopus has legs. For some unbeknownst reason, I thought I could do everything and in the dead of winter it seemed very doable. Unfortunately, a Superwoman cape with my name on it was not found under the Christmas tree.

I am only one woman.

After trying to keep all the plates spinning and almost having a few crash on me, I realized I have to pick one thing and become amazing at it.

Spinning plates at the circus doesn’t pay the bills.

ferris wheel

There is only so long you can go around before you get sick. The circus is a fun place to visit, but not to live.


I found it literally impossible to be all of the following:

  • Leadership coach
  • Personal Trainer
  • Nutrition Coach
  • Author
  • Speaker
  • Figure Competitor
  • Young Life Leader
  • Wife
  • Friend
  • Marketing Consultant
  • Mentor

By saying yes to all of those things, I said no to both myself and my purpose.

To change the world by supporting influential women to step into all they have been created to be and live their whole lives.

Know how to say ‘No’.

If you say ‘Yes‘ to everything, you are most likely saying ‘No’ to more things that you realize. If you want to reach your goals, you have to start owning your ‘nos‘ and learn how to say them.

make it happen

What you do with your life is your choice. Say YES to your goals and purpose!


Choose a narrow path and run down it with excellence.

  • Say no to good and only say yes to great.
  • Know who you want to become and do the things that lead you towards that end.
  • When resistance comes, refuse to quit.
  • Plan ahead for what you will say yes to.
  • Write out what you value most in life. If it doesn’t align with your values, it is time to say ‘buh-bye!’
  • Refuse to settle for a little bit of impact everywhere. Show up BIG in one or two places and change the world.
  • Stop trying to make everyone else happy. Do your thing and be happy.

If you want to reach goals, you must start saying no more often so the huge YES has room to roll in.

What do you know you need to say no to?

*This post is part of the Monday ‘Getting the Goal Done‘ series*
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  1. Learning to say no is one of the most freeing things in life. Learning when to say no and when to say yes, what to say no to and what to say yes to, isn’t always easy but it’s so important. “Stop trying to make everyone else happy” is a huge part of that lesson.

    • Elaine, I agree! It is not an easy lesson to learn. I found that once I stopped trying to make everyone else happy and worked on my own happiness, people got happier. 😀

  2. Great post. So very true!!

  3. You have no idea how timely this post is! I needed that to enforce some “no’s” that I have to give this morning!

    • This is awesome news! I am glad I wrote it just for you. YES! Now I know you did amazing today, and I would love to hear more about it. Keep doing awesome things lady!

  4. Wow. Just wow. This was EXACTLY what I needed. Thank you!

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