I Refuse to Lose

For the last few months, I have been in a rough patch.

On the spectrum of life turbulence, I have been pinging between ‘put on your safety mask before helping others‘ and ‘your seat turns into a floatation device during water landings‘.

I could list out everything, but in all honesty I am sick to death of it. Thinking about it, focussing on it, or the thought of delving into it again makes me want to have a stroke.

I have been here before.

In the past, this is the point of the journey where I:

  • Turn around
  • Go back
  • Retreat
  • Complain
  • Sit down and weep
  • Take a different path for awhile

Everywhere leads here, so here is where I will stay.

Motivation and inspiration get you started, but determination, grit, actively choosing, and perseverence get you what you want.

I want a breakthrough.

This fall I was honored to speak at the NAITSA Leadership Summit and be on the stage speaking docket as Theo Fleury who knows better than 99.9837% of the world about waiting for a breakthrough. His message resonated with some of the deepest frustrations that linger in my heart.

Don’t quit before the miracle arrives

  • I refuse to regress.
  • I will not stop.
  • I will not give up.
  • I will keep pushing on the wall of resistance.
  • I will fight and keep the ground I have won.

No matter how long it takes, I am going to win.

I am not a victim of circumstance. I am the captain of my ship. I have charted a course that takes me to my dreams; where, how and with who I go is up to me.

Captain of the Ship

This is my life and I will embrace all of it; struggle, disappointment, and resistance included.

This morning when I found myself face down on the dirty YMCA floor because my triceps failed on my 4th set of tricep push ups after a mere 5 reps, there was no question in my mind if I would get up and keep going.

I stood up, dusted myself off, and kept training.

I’m up and there is no question if I will keep going.

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  1. Love it!

  2. Chrystal cook says

    Wow ur amazingggg n this morning i to fell on my face doing this thing i cant remember whats called n she said i was done but i dont count falling as a point toward it so i did another one it so wouldve been easier to say ok n be done that but my attitude is changing and im more determined then ever and oh yah my gym is using me as a story piece for there newsletter im pretty excited 🙂

  3. kirstin stokes smith says


  4. Fantastic Donloree!! Just what I needed to hear….seriously. Ive felt like giving up the last few days, but failure cannot be an option now ive come too far 😀 Go hard, and keep pushing, there is no limit to what we can achieve x

  5. I have said this here before — there are only two possible outcomes; completing what you are capable of… or not…

  6. Very inspirational, as always! I definitely hear you. A lot of things have gotten in my way recently, but things finally seem to be straightening themselves out and even looking positive! Things do get better 🙂

  7. Your unwavering determination never ceases to amaze me! Go get ’em Donloree! Just keep plugging away! You’ll get there despite all the bumps and bruises (or WORSE) along the way! Great post! And a belated Happy New Year to you!!! 🙂

  8. Donloree that was inspirational! Thanks for sharing. This one I need to copy and post on my fridge!

  9. Yay Velma. I know just how that feels. You just keep on keeping on.

  10. Love it! #AttitudeIsEverything and its just what I needed to hear. Thank you!

  11. It’s funny how your posts seem to coincide with how I’m feeling that day. (Must be a Sagi thing) I haven’t worked out for more than a WEEK. I had previously been discouraged about my wrist injury, until this morning when I realized a way I could possibly get over it and continue to go for my goal! With the physiotherapist’s guidance, of course. 🙂 THANK YOU for posting this post!

  12. WOW, this is fitting me right now. I am in the true grit part of my journey where I want to throw my hands up and give up … go back to the easy life of no accountability, but I am not!

    Well done on your training and your determination is very inspiring!

  13. Great post! Your determination and grit are inspiring on this dark and quiet Saturday morning. Don’t quit before your miracle arrives – love that.

    • It has started to become a mantra for me when I need to keep going. There is a miracle coming too, I just have to put one foot in front of the other for a little while longer.

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