In This World You Will Be Heckled

I am used to sticking out, after all I did grow up with the name Donloree Dickau.

Roll call was always rather interesting on the first day of school. After the expected pregnant pause and bugged out eyes when the teacher arrived in the D section, I would raise my hand and say, ‘Yup. Here. Its dawn-lah-ree dick-ow.’

Then negotiation would ensue over what the teacher could call me instead of my name.

I’ve never settled for anything less than being called Donloree. 

I experience pregnant pauses and bugged out eyes sometimes when I:

  • Tell people I am a bodybuilder
  • Eat prepped food from my purse
  • Mention the alarm rings at 4:30 am
  • Talk about my business
  • Share my life goals
  • Chase down my dreams

I have dreams and a life calling to pursue, getting bogged down in other people’s perceptions isn’t going to help me accomplish them.

Not one bit.

No matter what dream you’re pursuing someone is going to have something negative to say about it.

Over the last few years I’ve just decided to get over the fact that some people are going to be shocked no matter what I do. If I let all of the negativity keep me from doing what I want, locked myself away, and wasted all of my potential I am sure more than a few people would have something to say about that too!

In the past I have mistaken questioning and confusion for unsupportive behaviors when in fact my life was just challenging their worldview and the ceiling of doubt they let govern their life.

All questions, confusion, and bewilderment aren’t bad.

I actually love answering questions about competing, being self employed, losing weight, teaching, and inspirational speaking because it means they are curious. Curiosity leads to growth and if I get to be part of someone growing, then I am more than happy to participate.

In this world you will be heckled and naysaying will occur. I just prefer to be chasing down my dreams rather than sitting on the sidelines when it happens.

It’s Bikini or Bust!

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  1. Thank you for this blog post! Very timely. I had someone say something so negative to me about my body today and I am doing my best to resist it. It’s amazing what some people will say … sometimes I forget that there are naysayers out there no matter what. Thanks again 🙂

    • Corrie, I was simply going to reply to Donloree’s post, but then I saw your comment. I literally “feel your pain” on this one — I don’t know why people think they have any right, whatsoever, to make comments about others’ bodies, particularly negative comments. Brush it off if you can. A sign I found recently says it perfectly: “How people treat you is their karma. How you react is yours.” Charge your karma, girl 🙂

  2. Donloree, I love this post! I especially love “getting bogged down in other people’s perceptions isn’t going to help me accomplish them.” LOVE LOVE it!!! I think I will adopt that quote and remember that daily. Thank you! 🙂

  3. This is a great motivational post! I deal with a lot of criticism too, but you just have to focus on the fact that the people who criticise are just jealous because they can’t achieve what you can 🙂

  4. I loved this post! Exactly what I needed to hear and put things into perspective. You’re right there will be people who dont understand and may be negative but that doesnt mean the dream is any less important!

    Its a great way to remind all of us that we not alone in our own search for what makes us strive to be better.

  5. I am joining the love chorus! Great post! I like the phrase ‘ceiling of doubt’ to describe the place that nay-sayers reside.

    Your energy and enthusiasm is infectious! I needed some of that this morning!!

  6. LOVE this sentence! “I have dreams and a life calling to pursue, getting bogged down in other people’s perceptions isn’t going to help me accomplish them.” Beautiful post. Keep doing what you do – you’re such an inspiration.

  7. As always, your posts are timely and resonate within so many of us. What spoke to me was the list of times when you experience pregnant pauses and bugged out eyes. Growing up with disabled siblings (now deceased), having a massive scar on my leg, having multiple goals and dreams that I have accomplished and am working towards, etc. — I know exactly what you mean. I am still affected by other people’s perceptions but am much better at not letting them affect me too greatly. Thanks for this!!

  8. All so true…i’ve heard just about every negative comment about my body and my weight…at one point, I would hide what I ate at work because I just couldn’t take any more of the criticism. Now, I’ve learned that this is MY life and MY choices…sure, many will not understand and mean things will be said, but then I have an amazing group of supportive and encouraging people around me who are there to lean on when it gets tough. Knowing I have that support and believing in myself have fueled my passion and desire to be 100% committed to my goals:)

    Stay Strong!!!!

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