11 Years Later, I Still Love Blackberries

Today is my 11 year wedding anniversary. Yes, I am technically old enough to have been married this long; that being said we got married when we were babies!

I’m 31, so I will let you do the math. 

  • Marriage is not easy.
  • Being single is not easy.
  • Having kids is not easy.
  • Being healthy is not easy.

Life is hard; but fabulous.

I don’t have a storybook marriage; it is a lot of work! Do you have any idea how hard I am to live with? Trust me, it is not a cake walk by any stretch of the imagination.

While I have worked on getting my body fit, my mind, emotions, spirit, and relationships have all had to be addressed at the same time.

Some days you just don’t want to.

Do you ever get up and feel like stomping your feet like a 3 year old and words like, “I hate this. I don’t want to. Don’t make me!‘ come out of your mouth when you think about going to the gym?

Then you get over yourself and do it anyways and you’re glad you did?

Same goes for marriage. There are days when you ‘just DON’T want to!‘ But if you get over yourself and do it anyways, you are always glad you did.

Rest is required.

Not going to gym is one of the hardest things for me to do. I was created to conquer, not sit back and watch the clouds slowly drift by. After you have pushed your muscles past their limits, they need rest to grow stronger for the next challenge that you put in front of them.

Honestly, sometimes you just need a break. A night out with the girls, a weekend away by yourself or with friends, or just an evening doing whatever the heck you want. It seems counterintuitive to say the least, especially if you are in the middle of a rough time with your relationship, but I promise you will come back stronger.

Rest shows that you are strong enough to say ‘I’m tired and I just can’t right now, but I will tomorrow‘.

A custom training and nutrition plan gives you the best results.

I rarely tell people how I train, what I eat, and what my macros are; not because its a big secret but because I am scared they will implement a plan that has been designed for me and get less than stellar results. My metabolism, lean muscle mass, genetics, food tolerances, training intensity, and level of mental engagement is unique to me. I am constantly tweaking my nutrition and training with my coaches for the best result.

Doing what ‘Joe and Penelope‘ do in their relationship may seem like the way to go, but they are completely different than me and Jon. I install toilets and sinks and Jon is great making sure we talk about everything. If we did what ‘Joe and Penelope‘ do we wouldn’t having running water in the house and we would never talk about it.

Simple can be boring or best.

“What I wouldn’t give to have a reese’s peanut butter blizzard RIGHT NOW!”

Two hours later I am bloated beyond heck with a headache and battling a sugar induced coma. I wish I had just had a bowl of my favorite treat instead – simple, plain, old blackberries.

Sure it could be ‘boring‘, but it really is the best thing on the planet.

Donloree blackberry


Its all about perspective and the great thing about perspective is you get to choose it.

A HUGE shout out to my husband who puts up with all my ridiculousness, believes I can do absolutely anything, and has stuck with me through some of the darkest times of my life.

Not easy, but oh so worth it.

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  1. Well how could he not love you? You seem pretty amazing, and he obviously is, too. I read the post you wrote on January 24th regarding how he spends time with you on the treadmills just to be able to spend time with you. That made me weepy. You two are a very special couple!!

    PS — yesterday I was in a “I hate this. I don’t want to. Don’t make me!‘ mood regarding going to the gym. I went. I had a good workout and I definitely felt good about going. (oh, and then I wound up in the hospital with a migraine for the first time ever(!!) but that’s weather-related, I think.)

  2. While I prefer raspberries, I agree that we all have to do our own thing. I couldn’t have found a better man for me, there is not a man in the world who could or would put up with me during contest prep. I’m picky, selfish, snotty, and emotional. Congratulations that you can still realize that he’s the man for you! 🙂

  3. Good point! I never liked rasberries or berries in general plain, but I do like good apples. Its just more fun to grab a handful of pretzels….sighs….even though I have been maintaining my weight for 2 1/2 years I still have alot of change to do.

  4. congrats on hitting the 11 year mark : )

  5. Awww this made me a bit teary you know it is all so very true and you said it so beautifully!!! You 2 are the cutest couple and congrats on 11 years and cheers to a million more 😉

    I love raspberries too! But my daughter loves blackberries lol

  6. Aren’t husbands the best? I’m no peach to live with either, so I know what you mean. Thank God they put up with our silliness.

    Congrats on 11 years, definitely something to celebrate!

  7. Congrats on your anniversary. This was a cute post 🙂

    But I don’t get what’s wrong with us following YOUR training plan.. and YOUR macros. Why wouldn’t that be good for ME? Just kidding!!

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