Wallowing in Excuses

There is a very odd phenomenon that sometimes happens at parties; I become people’s external conscious and they have the need to tell me why they don’t work out, how it is so hard to eat healthy, and that they will try better. It is the funniest thing! I will simply be chatting away and the topic of working out and eating healthy comes up and suddenly all eyes turn to me and some people start to justify why they don’t take care of themselves.

DLH – It just keeps snowing and snowing! I can’t wait for spring so we can enjoy the outdoors without risk of losing a limb from frostbite! (As I nibble on my celery and baby carrots)

Woman Eating a HUGE piece of Chocolate Cake – Agreed. This cake is delicious! I really shouldn’t be eating it….but it is just so good. It is going right to my hips. HERE! Try some.

DLH – Um, no thanks. Looks good though.

WEHPCC – Oh you’re one of those women….no wonder you’re so thin. I should go to the gym.

DLH – Sure, if you want to it could be fun. (shrugging shoulders while sipping from cup of black coffee)

WEHPCC – Well I try. I mean, I WANT to go to the gym. It’s just too hard. I should workout more. I should eat more vegetables. I WILL eat better….after tonight. I feel so horrible eating this cake standing next to you. I am overweight and try my best, but there are just so many things to do. How often do you go to the gym? You probably NEVER go to the gym and are blessed with great genes.

DLH – Well…often enough?

WEHPCC – (Around a gooey bite of cake) I just don’t have time. I have other things to do!! How do you do it? You are just lucky because you’re thin…imagine being my size.

It’s at this point in the conversation that I wish I was wearing a shirt that says, ‘I was fat once too!’.

The thing is, I care that you aren’t taking care of yourself but there is no judgement. I know what it is like to NOT be able to care for yourself or make healthy choices. Having been in Obese Class One at one point in my life, I have a very firm grasp on what that is like.

A healthy lifestyle and way of thinking needs to be built and worked on just like your biceps and back. I didn’t wake up one day and found myself magically fit and lean with the discipline to eat clean 95%  the time. I built all of those muscles along with my quads, triceps, and lats.

Strength and muscle growth comes from pushing yourself past your current limitations. When you push yourself past what you think you can do, that is when you grow. This is true of your muscles, but even more so with your mind.

Build a strong mind and a strong body and heart will follow; then you can stop wallowing in excuses and start to flourish in health.

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  1. ultra_matt says

    The mental component of physical transformation is so much more challenging than I ever imagined. In making the progress I have in the last month, I’m not sure what I’m more proud of: the physical changes or the victories that have occured in my mind to enable those changes. The mind definitely deserves a lot more credit.

    • Totally! It is the unseen portion of all the training and transformation that I am most proud of. I am proud of you too! It takes a long to do what you’ve done as well. 🙂

  2. I really hate it when people tell me they don’t have time. Let me tell you about time people. If you want it that bad, you’ll find a way to do it.

  3. I totally identify! While I’m heating my food up in the microwave at work, people feel the need to tell me that they’re going to work, or they USED to work out, or their Lean Cuisine IS actually healthy, etc. I’m not judging; I’m just doing my own thing. Keep doing YOUR own thing, girl. You’ve come a long way! 🙂

    • Lol! I love this. My favorite is when people spend 20 minutes questioning me about my lunch. GOSH, I just want to EAT IT!!! It’s healthy and I am hangry – enough said! 😉

  4. I think this is one of my favorite posts! I can totally relate.

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