I know this is going to come as an absolute shock, but I have only experienced the world as a woman. I view everything through woman-colored glasses unless I purposefully, and with much effort, take them off.
Woman-colored glasses suck.
One of my biggest hangups in life is how I view my body. I know I am not alone in the experience and that most women have this same problem. What we think of our bodies and beauty keeps us stuck and creates feelings of anguish.
I am proud of myself and feel fully comfortable with who I am and who I am becoming in nearly every area except for the image that stares back at me from the mirror. She blinks at me and all I can see is a rather large, statuesque woman who is fluffier than society allows for with giant eyes and shoulders that a linebacker would covet.
- Oh to be ten years old again!
To have the freedom to wear mismatched clothes, have your hair all in chaos and laugh until your belly hurt all while being the most fabulous YOU on the planet.To not even notice or be bothered by your imperfections because you are too busy chasing dreams to be bothered by what someone might dislike about you one day.
I’ve been reading my 52 books and have a backlog of gazillions of books to comment on and blog about, but life has not afforded me the luxury to be able to put pen to paper or more specifically keystroke to blogpost.
This last week, I have been reading ‘Yes, Please‘ and found myself literally laughing out loud – a gift rarely found in a book. In the midst of the chortles and deep appreciation of Amy’s sarcasm, I have found some fabulous gems.
“I had already made a decision early on that I would be a plain girl with tons of personality, and accepting it made everything a lot easier. If you are lucky, there is a moment in your life when you have some say as to what your currency is going to be. I decided early on it was not going to be my looks. I have spent a lifetime coming to terms with this idea and I would say I am about 15 to 20 percent there. Which I think is great progress.
Decide what your currency is early. Let go of what you will never have. People who do this are happier and sexier.
Being considered beautiful can be tough. I know this because I work in Hollywood, which is filled with the most conventionally beautiful people in the world. Beautiful people can get objectified and underestimated. The didn’t do anything to earn their genes so they have to struggle to prove they are more than their hot bods. People assumed they are happy and good in ed and most times this is not true.”
~ Pages 20-21
In the midst of a season where I have come face to face with the monsters in my head that sound just like me except for they say really mean things that I would never even think about saying to my enemies, the pithy and truthful prose of Amy shines through and sends them back to the pit where they came from.
I’ve been shopping at stores that only take Euros and all I have in my bank are dollars.
The most beautiful people I have met are who they are without apology. They are busy chasing dreams and doing life which leaves them no time to count the number of cottage cheese dimples on their thighs or assess how floppy their arms are. They are out spending their currency and investing themselves in things that matter.
Who knew Amy Poehler would meet me where I was at and have words of wisdom for me in a season of intense struggle and chaos? That’s the thing with sharing your story; no matter where you are, you are father down the path than someone who needs help to get where you are.
I’m glad I found Amy on my path this week.
I may not have any Euros, but I have millions of Donloree Dollars that need to be spent, shared and invested. I can’t wait to start spending my currency again. It is time to stop shopping at the stores that only take Euros; I have no more time to waste looking at what is behind the glass case and wondering if Euros will magically appear while what I have sits in an account gaining very little interest.
Women, it is time to stop living like we have nothing to offer. Stop bemoaning what you don’t have and start spending!