About 5 weeks ago I was having serious conversations with myself about throwing my name back into the bodybuilding ring. Seriously, who doesn’t like the crazy adventure of training like a mad woman, counting every single macro that goes into your mouth, practicing posing every single day, and re-crafting your life to center around an audacious goal?
Ok, you’re right… not very many people.
I will be the first to admit it, I am weird. And awesome. You are ‘something’ and awesome too.
Ideas, plans, and strategies were running through my head. I was going to start up the Bikini or Bust! blog again, dive into the subculture of bodybuilding, write like a mad woman on the blog, and refocus my life around competing.. In my dream world, books were being written, sponsorships were appearing out of thin air, and I was all over the dieting like a fat kid on a Smartie.
Note for all American readers – Smarties are Canadian candies that are similar to M&Ms but not tasty like M&Ms. In my not-so-humble opinion they are icky.
It seemed like a good idea…until I really thought about it.
This past weekend I was helping out with the INBF show in Calgary. My job is to run around backstage and make sure everyone has their tan on, give pep talks when necessary, and answer the same 5 questions 8,000 times. It’s crazy, fun, and by the time the night show ends I am dead on my feet and covered in tan from getting hugged by happy competitors.
This wasn’t my first time at the rodeo, but it was the first time I didn’t walk away sad because I wasn’t on the stage.
A lightbulb went off.
I am actually so happy to be my buck-sixty self because at this moment in my life, I am the best Donloree I have ever been.
- Why do we decide that looking a certain way will equate in happiness?
Being my best self doesn’t require me to wear a size four. In fact, wearing a size four has nothing to do with being my best self. The amount of mental, emotional, relational, and physical health I sacrificed to get there was ridiculous.
Happiness is an inside job and a daily job.
We are the ones who self select ourselves to not participate in life. No one checks my dress size at the door and tells me I am too chubby to have the time of my life, participate, or change the world.
The truth is, those who take the opportunities are the ones who get them.
Is the door in front of you closed? What if the door is unlocked and all you have to do is open it? What if you knocked or went in search of another door?
Hear me well, I am not saying don’t take care of your body.
Nor am I saying bodybuilding is not an incredible sport that taught me discipline, how to think well, and birthed many great things in my life. Its when I made bodybuilding my identity rather than something I do that things got wonky real fast.
I am saying take care of all of you and love you, no matter what size you are. Choose physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health and choose to get better every single day. All of you matters.
- And all of you are ‘something’ and awesome.
That healthy ‘something’ is what the world needs. Don’t wait until you have arrived at a certain look, age, accomplishment, weight, or size to start living.
Happiness comes from knowing you are, fully accepting it, and then being it without caring what other people think.
Who knows? I may just go rogue one of these years and do a competition again. If and when I do, it will be one of the things I do, not be who I am. And it will have to be when I have the time and attention to give to it without sacrificing my purpose in life.
My one and only job is to be Donloree in every single season and size of my life.