Do you ever feel like you need a life highlighter?
You know what I am talking about, right? It is for those times when you see something, hear a word that is spoken, or have a giant ‘a-hah!’ moment and all you want to do is whip out a mondo fluorescent highlighter out of your purse, press *pause* on life and color over what you just learned.
- You know…for future reference…
I freely admit it, I sometimes think in cartoon. Just in case you were curious in the Donloree-Life-Cartoon I am always wearing great shoes and nylons are never required.
Yesterday I found myself searching for the giant life highlighter when I ran across this gem which perfectly illustrates what I have been trying to put to words lately.
If I sat down to make a list of things that mattered, I could write all day long and probably not even come close to finishing.
My dominant personality wishes the same was true for the things I can control, but after a few minutes that list would be finished. In fact, it comes down to one thing – myself.
Overlap creates clarity.
- Where am I in the thing, situation, circumstance, or person’s life that matters?
- What can I do? What must be done that I can do?
- What do I need to let go of?
- What is out of my control?
- What can I change?
- What influence, voice or movement can I create?
I love to sit and think about all the things that matter and that I can’t control. I think about them a lot. Then when I run out of things to think about that matter, I move onto the things that don’t matter list.
I think the experts refer to this as ‘worry’.
Worrying about something only keeps you from doing the things you can do. It takes up space, energy, time, brain cells and emotion that could be directed to a situation where you could do something. Worry focusses on what you can’t do, rather than what you can do.
In the overlap worry goes away and is replaced by work.
Working hard at the things you can do and learning how to control your emotions, thoughts, energy, discipline and words is not easy, but it is peaceful.
Pumpkin, chocolate and brie grilled sandwiches.
Apparently grilled pumpkin, chocolate and brie is quite the tasty sandwich. Who knew? It just goes to show you that you don’t know what is good together until you try it.
Calm, peace, and rest come from working hard in the overlap. It isn’t intuitive, but once you try it you won’t go back…apparently the same is true for the PBC sandwich, but I will just take Maria and Josh’s word for it.
Focus on what you can control and what matters and give the rest to someone else. Other people have different things in their overlap, let them get to work on it and leave the worry behind.