Ain’t No Secret I’m an Introvert

I am…wait for it…an introvert.

 *gasp*

Ok, so maybe this isn’t a surprise to you. For many years I tried to pretend to be extroverted and never said no to anything and found myself wanting to scream at parties and hide under my desk at work.

Donloree’s personal definition of ‘introvert’ – Fun loving person who thinks deep, laughs until her guts hurt, brings out fully formed ideas to share with people, loves people with abandon, is intensely fabulous, and lives on a pendulum of high intensity action with people to seclusion, reflection and recharge.

I get up really early in the morning because I need time to be alone, think, journal and write and workout. I take time to pour into myself so when I show up in the other parts of my life, which are full of people, I have joy, excitement, and passion to give to people.

I need a decent amount of 'this' in my life. Need, not want. :)

I need a decent amount of ‘this’ in my life. Need, not want.

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A passionless Donloree is not a good scene.

I grew up thinking being introverted meant you are lame, boring, and weird. I am neither lame or boring, but I am definitely weird.

  • Nor am I hermit.

There are times when hermit-esque activities are required so I don’t die, but it doesn’t mean I don’t love people. In fact, I truly love people, I just need alone time to keep my love on.

An article on Huffington Post has been floating around Facebook this past week – 23 Signs You’re Secretly an Introvert. It is a pretty decent overview about some of the aspects of being introverted.

Ain't no secret in my life!

Ain’t no secret in my life!

Maybe you’re an introvert too…

If you are, embrace it! Know that you aren’t weird, strange, freakish or anything else just because you need  alone time to recharge.

There are moments when I have to tell my awesome husband, who is an extreme extrovert, that I just need to be alone or I desperately need quiet in order to not implode. He similarly needs us to get out of the house, to go be with loads of people and do a lot of things which involve a lot of people to not implode.

  • After 13 years we are starting to find our rhythm.

Learning about yourself is one of the best things you can do for the people in your life. Knowing what you need and getting it healthy, appropriate ways creates amazing relationships.

Don’t choose the path of implosion. Choose to walk the path of being your amazing self.

What do you need to stay happy and energized? Are you an introvert and you just didn’t know it?

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Comments

  1. Thanks for the post! I too am an introvert. That link you shared really spoke to me and reassured me I don’t need to change (and, in fact, can’t change). I HATED being told to “come out of my shell and participate more in class” by teachers while growing up. Just because we’re sitting quietly and not talking as much does not mean we are not participating! 🙂 I’m looking forward to the middle of this week when, hopefully, I will have a few days when I can just be alone and recharge. I have just come through a full week during which my in-laws were staying with us (and we’re all on one floor in our house that’s in the middle of renos, with them staying on the sofa bed in the living room), followed by a weekend of get-togethers (one with an extended family that is comprised primarily of very in-your-face extroverts and one with a bunch of strangers and a bit of family), followed by a couple of days with just my family but not enough to recharge, followed by my in-laws staying another night, followed by now which has my dad staying here but he has our room (my alone time space). Talk about high-stress for this introvert! Oh and did I mention my daughter’s birthday party that is coming up in a couple of days and me hosting 20+ people (mostly family) for that??? Yes, I will need plenty of time alone to recharge. I don’t journal or write as much but my alone time is well spent at the piano or with some art paper/canvas painting or drawing … or knitting. 🙂

    • Your comment and life this past week gave me introvert anxiety! 😉 hah!

      Knitting, piano, and art are perfect ways to recharge. It doesn’t matter how, just that you do. Recharge my friend!!

  2. People laugh when I tell them I’m an introvert. But I totally am. I hide it by playing extrovert all day long. But I know who I am…

    • Exactly. I get the same thing a lot of the time. Those closest to me know I am very much an introvert. Let’s just say I have learned how to ‘extrovert’ well. 🙂

  3. yup,im a an introvert!
    I married an extrovert so I have been able to mask some of my introvert tendencies when we are out together in his social circles.
    I know this may come as a surprise but I run/lift to recharge!!!!

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