Apparently I’m unfriendly.
It has been brought to my attention that I am less than friendly at the gym. I don’t stop and chat, wave, or drop my workout to listen to people talk on and on. I tend to give a slight wave if eye contact is made, otherwise I am going about my business. If I need something that someone seems to be done with but I am not sure I will ask about it but I don’t ask about their day, introduce myself or talk about anything else.
- The comment about my unfriendliness was made by a man.
The other women in the weight area seem to be just as ‘unfriendly’ as I apparently am. We are there to do work, heft some iron and get on with our day. Even in the change room we are hurrying to shower, get our hair done and get our makeup on to get to the office.
Hairdryers keep conversation down and focus high.
Many men in the morning stop and chat with each other and do more meandering than training which is fine for them. There is a place for chatting and meandering in your day, but for me it is not in the gym at 6:30 am when I have to finish by 7:45 so I can leave by 8:20 to be on time for my 9:00 appointment.
Some rationale for my ‘rude’ behavior.
- Gym time is ‘me time’. I train because, well, I love it.
- Being friendly to a meandering gym guy gives him permission to talk to you while you’re doing decline sit-ups, which is just awkward and tends to make you nauseous after about the 8th sit-up.
- I only have a small window of time to get my training in.
- Having them park themselves next to you on a treadmill and talk to you while you’re doing HIIT sprints is frustrating and talking during the 15 second rest period is pretty much impossible.
- Warming up more than once because you stopped training to talk is a waste of time. Time I just don’t have.
- Taking out my earbuds has resulted in more ‘coaching and help’ from men who know nothing about training than I want to experience in a lifetime.
I have been friendly in the past, but it seems to do more harm than good for my workout. I suppose I will have to embrace being seen as cold and heartless to keep my workout intact.
- Maybe the gym is a social outlet for men and a task for women?