This evening I found myself bone dead tired, but happily singing while doing something I absolutely hate.
I have no idea how one woman can use so many reusable containers in one day, and heck, I am that woman!
Three very good reason to hate doing dishes.
- Thanklessness. No one ever thanks you for doing the dishes and they show up every single day, dirty as ever.
- Crustiness. Forgetting to rinse your containers right away can lead to spoons being adhered to to containers with a ferocity that puts superglue to shame.
- Singletasking. I have yet to figure out how to do anything else while washing dishes. I can’t even scratch my nose without making more work for myself in the long run.
While armpit deep in suds, hot water, and more crusty ziploc containers than is even reasonable, I had an epiphany.
I am happy. Very happy.
Happiness doesn’t just arrive. It takes discipline and doesn’t always look fabulous.
I worked my way up the corporate ladder in hot pursuit of happiness. At the top there was stress, tons of responsibility, and more expectation than I ever wanted to carry.
- Corporate tumbleweed rolled by, but no happiness.
In an effort to find purpose, I whittled my muffin top down to a size zero and worked myself into the ground to try to look like a cover model.
- Dissatisfaction and frustation stared back at me from the mirror.
Expectation of fulfillment was a burden I forcefully strapped to my husband’s back for 12 years.
- Overwhelmed and stressed responses was all I got back in return.
Happiness is an inside job.
Feelings come and feelings go; what you do with them matters. Learning about what goes on inside of myself and what I needed to change to be happy is one of the most important things I have learned in my adult life.
How to start moving towards happiness.
- Recognize the feeling. What is that thing swirling inside of you? Anger? Frustration? Sadness? Aloofness?
- Get curious. Ask yourself questions like, ‘What is that about? Where did that come from? What is triggering this feeling?’
- Choose a reaction. What you do with the feeling is up to you. Scream, cry, journal, breathe, talk calmly, take time for yourself, sing, or laugh; it is 100% up to you.
- Accept responsibility. Your happiness is your responsibility, own it and cultivate it.
I waited 32 years for something to happen or change so I could be happy.
It turns out that thing is ME.
What goes on in the inside shows up on the outside.