We often talk about the things we ‘can’t’ do.
Our conversations are filled with self created facts about how constrained we are, what isn’t possible, and all the obstacles that make the things we want to do impossible.
Even the most inane things that are easy to fix are sometimes deemed to be impossible, just as a conversation with a woman in the grocery line reminded me this morning.
DL – I love your watch! Wow, it is sure fabulous and cute. Matches your shoes perfectly. Awesome!
Woman in the Grocery Line – Yeah, its nice but I am going to have to stop wearing it because I have wrist problems. It hurts a lot to wear it, like a lot. I think I have carpel tunnel or arthritis in this wrist. I am in constant pain.
DL – I am so sorry to hear about the wrist. Pain is never fun…couldn’t you just wear it on your left arm?
Woman in the Grocery Line – Nope.
DL – Why not?
Woman in the Grocery Line – Watches go on right arms. I can’t wear my watch on my left arm. If I can’t wear it on this arm, well then, I am doomed to go without a watch.
DL – So you can’t wear you watch on your left arm because…because you have decided you can’t? I don’t mean to be ridiculous, but you really could wear it on your left arm. Don’t you get to make the rules about how you wear your watch?
Woman in the Grocery Line – It just can’t be done. I will have to endure the pain in order to know what time it is.
DL – Ok…but you should really know that you COULD just wear it on your left arm. be on time, and no one would judge you for it.
Woman in the Grocery Line – *harrump* How would you know? You don’t even wear a watch.
Obviously it was more important for this woman to complain than to know what time it is.
I cannot even begin to tell you the amount of times people have told me, ‘I could never do that…’, especially when I was training for a bodybuilding show. I also get this response when I talk about running my own business, speaking in front of crowds of people, writing a book, going to India and working with Mother Teresa’s Missionaries of Charity, catering a wedding, and a myriad of other crazy things I have done over the years.
The truth is, you just don’t want to and that’s ok.
Instead of excuses, we need to find a way to do what we want in life. And if you don’t want to do it, be honest with yourself. There is no shame in not wanting to do something.
In fact incredible freedom is created you’re up front about what you want to do with your life.