Three years ago I had a dream hidden in my heart and no idea how to make it happen.
Compete in a bodybuilding show.
I know you’re supposed to write all your dreams and goals down to keep yourself accountable to what you want to do, draw a line in the sand, and a set your intention.
None of that was done.
The best I could do was whisper it to myself late at night when I found a wide eyed woman staring back at me in the mirror. Somehow it seemed possible, so I started towards my secret goal. Eventually I told my husband and swore him to secrecy.
In August of 2010, something shifted.
I felt I had something to share with the world, so I threw caution to the wind and started a blog.
It was Bikini or Bust!
I had not idea what I was doing, just where I was going.
Over the last few years I have learned more than I thought possible from gluing a bedazzled suit to my arse.
Five amazing lessons I didn’t expect to learn.
#1 Teamwork really does make the dream work!
Bodybuilding seems like a singular sport. You train alone, eat weird foods that no one else eats, haul food around in your purse, have a structure schedule, and on show day it is just you on the stage; you against the world.
If you want to do something great, surround yourself with great people.
#2 You never arrive.
We all have mountain top experiences in life, but once you reach the summit there is a new summit in the distance that you must conquer. Arriving is a fleeting experience and living is where it is at. The trek up to the top is where you do all the living and growing.
Enjoy every moment. Relish in the struggle and the victory.
#3 Pant size is just a freaking number.
Yup, I used to weigh over 215 pounds and wear size 20. I have worn size zero and am currently residing in a size 8 pant. No one cares except me.
When I go to do something audacious and exciting, no one asks me what size my pants are that day. My attitude, courage, and discipline are the factors that determine my success.
Wearing size 0 is not the be all and end all.
Happiness is found in loving and appreciating yourself for who you are, not for what size you are.
#4 Purpose and passion are more important than carbs.
Have you ever given up on something? The answer to the rhetorical question is ‘yes‘. We have all given up on a dream or goal at one time or another. Most likely you forgot why you were doing it in the first place, or there was no real reason to accomplish the goal.
Do things that have a purpose. The going will get rough and you have to know why you are doing what you are doing in order to keep going. Easy is what lazy people do. Moving forward in the face of obstacles and challenges is what makes you a champion.
Know your purpose and do things that ignite passion.
#5 Score yourself before you’re judged.
When I competed, I came in dead last.
Being judged, assessed, and placed is part of competition. If my whole purpose was to win the show, then I failed miserably. I knew my score going into the competition. There was no doubt in my mind that I had given 100% and I gave myself first place in the ‘Becoming the Best Donloree on the Planet’ competition
Compare yourself only to yourself, all other comparisons either make you cocky or bitter.
A little while ago, I made the choice to not compete again. My heart was heavy as I didn’t know where I was off to next, but I knew I needed to say no to competing in order to say yes to new ventures.
Good thing the ‘Becoming the Best Donloree on the Planet’ competition is always open for me to compete in. Some days I absolutely demolish the competition, others I fail to show up.
Do you want to know what the most wonderful thing I learned from gluing a bedazzled suit onto my arse and competing is?
I am way more fabulous than I thought I was, and so are you!