Size Doesn’t Matter
Posted on 01 November 2009
I have one piece of advice for men and uninformed women.
While talking to a woman, don’t comment on her size – big or small. Keep it to yourself.
Petite women don’t want to hear things like:
- You’re sooooo CUTE! And little. Tiny actually.
- You’re how old? 28? I thought you were 15 because of how small you are.
- Wow! You’re SO TINY! I nearly didn’t see you all the way down there.
While listening to these kinds of comments the petite woman can only fume as you’ve just made her into an inconsequential child when she just wants to be taken seriously as a woman.
I’m anything but petite and have been told this very thing time and time again. I am merely 5’8”, but wear heels that make me up to 6 feet tall on any given day.
From my personal experience non-petite women don’t want to hear things like:
- Wow. You’re a large woman.
- Where are you from? The Nordic countries? All their women are robust like you.
- Can you help me move this? Looks like you have no problem carrying things with the size of those shoulders.
Ok, so I’m not the typical woman. But I’m not Attila the Hun either! I may have been built to work the farm, but it doesn’t mean people should comment on it.
My favorite happened just the other week.
You’re big for a woman, but you carry it well. Then the comment was punctuated by a big slap on the left shoulder.
If you can’t keep your thoughts on the stature of the woman you’re talking with to yourself, make sure to use words like slender, vivacious, and lovely. If you think you’re about to say something derogatory, please remove yourself from the conversation before you maim her with your observations.
And if you see this woman,
This woman does not want to be described as large or big, thank you very much!
please refrain from telling her she’s large.
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It’s hard to believe that people actually said things like that… are those comments for real? You couldn’t have made them up!! classic!
Yup. People actually said that stuff. This is one of the many reasons why I wonder about people in general. Men don’t seem to get these kinds of comments…it’s not fair.
Men don’t want to hear it either.
I’n 6’1″ and 285lbs and I certainly don’t appreciate people going “holy cr@@ you’re huge!” even if they don’t mean it “like that”. I’m quite aware of my size in relation to the average person, thanks.
One of my co-workers was telling that his son, who is 6’4″ or so, says he’s 5’6″ when asked how tall he is. I thought that was brilliant and that I should say that too. I usually forget though and just give my height in metres.